On Same-Day Sessions

Just because short notice bookings work best for your schedule doesn't mean they work for mine.

Maybe you work long hours at the office and an important meeting was rescheduled, freeing up your afternoon. Maybe your wife has no idea you're kinky and arranged a last-minute night out with friends. Maybe you landed in Dallas on a layover and your upcoming flight was cancelled. You know it's short notice, but you'd hate yourself for not asking: β€œIs there any way you can squeeze me in for a session?”

Whatever your reason, same-day sessions might truly be the best option for you-- I'd be lying if I said I didn't understand that. That said, just because short notice bookings work best for your schedule doesn't mean they work for mine. When you reach out for a same-day booking and I tell you I'm not available, understand the following:

1. Just because I'm not booked doesn't mean I'm not working.

Unfortunately, most submissives underestimate what my job actually entails. Since they only see me at the dungeon, it's easy to assume that if I'm not there, I'm not working. Same-day sessions, therefore, should be pretty easy for me to accommodate.

Assumptions like that are laughably far from the truth. Most of my time as a Dominatrix is actually spent hunched over my laptop, either working on projects related to my online domination work or tackling a neverending mountain of administrative tasks like emails, spreadsheets, and website edits. I'm always behind on something since there's so much to be done, so I dedicate days I'm not at the dungeon to playing catch-up. Changing course to take your same-day session means I won't complete as much as I need to, and I'll fall even further behind as a result.

2. A lot goes into a session.

By requesting a same-day session, you're asking me to change my plans to accommodate you. Sure, a same-day request for a two-hour booking might not seem like much of an inconvenience, but two hours for you is never two hours for me. Session preparation and clean-up can easily add another three hours or more to my workload, turning a two-hour session into at least a five-hour commitment.

Additionally, taking a session impacts what I'm able to do with the rest of my day once clean-up ends. I always experience some degree of fatigue and brain fog after play thanks to my Domme drop, and though it doesn't render me completely incapable of working on projects after a session, I never have the same energy levels and mental clarity I otherwise would. If I've already set aside my day to tackle an important project I was supposed to finish months ago, taking a same-day session means that project won't get completed.

3. I don't exist in a vacuum.

Most same-day requests come off as entitled. Whether you realize it or not, your request for a session with just a few hours' notice implies your time is more valuable than mine. In addition to assuming I probably won't have plans of my own for the day, you expect any plans I may have to be far less important than your sudden availability.

This tells me you don't view me as a busy professional with my own responsibilities, hobbies, and personal life-- instead, I'm merely a convenience. You're not interested in playing with me as much as you're interested in finding someone available, so if I won't let you book with just a few hours' notice, you'll happily find someone else who will.

Frankly, that's a huge turnoff.

4. Same-day sessions hurt me in the long run.

For most of my career, I loved same-day sessions. I found it thrilling to drop everything I was doing and rush to the dungeon, sometimes with only an hour's notice. It didn't matter how busy I was that day, how many time-sensitive tasks I was behind on, or if I was still exhausted from a session the day before: if I could get to the dungeon, I would.

I didn't realize it at the time, but many of my business decisions resulted in actively ignoring my own needs. Cramming as many sessions and personal obligations into a day as I could was exhilarating, but it also resulted in frequent periods of intense burnout that I struggled to bounce back from. I was an entire year into the pandemic before I realized burning the candle at both ends wasn't a sustainable business plan, and that my career longevity depended upon slowing down.

So, I did. I established a 90-minute session minimum, limited myself to no more than one session per day, and raised my rates. I stopped touring, and I also stopped taking same-day sessions. Such drastic changes weren't easy, but they were necessary.

As much as I miss the thrill of same-day sessions, I'm much more interested in maintaining my career over time. If you want to see me, you have to book in advance.

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